Three Ways to Boost Your Self Love
Whether you are bursting with love for yourself or feeling as useless as a chocolate teapot, practicing self-love is important.
As one of the cornerstones to our overall happiness, allowing ourselves time to do the things that make us feel good not only boosts our self-esteem but adds meaning and order to our lives.
Time for your own love and enjoyment should be a part of your everyday life, not a luxury afforded to a select few. In fact, I rarely use the phrase ‘taking time out’ for myself anymore, because I genuinely want to incorporate me-time into my day-to-day schedule.
Don’t believe that’s achievable in your world? Why not try repeating a simple mantra three times while you drive to work? It takes less than 60 seconds!
I personally love the idea of Self-love Sunday where I spend some time just for me; taking a bath, reading a book, doing my nails or baking something delicious. Whatever I feel most like doing; whatever I feel will make me feel the happiest and most grounded. Sometimes the things that brings me most satisfaction is cleaning my house and that’s ok too!
Here are three simple ways that you can practice loving yourself a little more.
Write a letter to yourself:
I know, it not only sounds wanky, but also a waste of time. Let me assure you it’s not time wasted if you commit to it. I wrote a letter to my past self not long ago and found myself quite emotional. Not just because I went over some trying times in my life, but because I was overcome with pride. I was proud of the things I have done and proud the elements that make up who I am. If you know you have 10 minutes to spare, try sitting down and writing out a letter to yourself (it can be your past, present or future self) and tell them all about the wonderful things you are experiencing. Share with them the best parts about yourself and why you are proud of who you are.
Repeat the mantra:
I won’t go into the whole ‘manifestation’ thing today – this post might already be a little more pretentious than your average TBL post – but the power of repeating certain words is incredible. If nothing else, it can help you maintain focus and alignment on what really matters to you. Having a mantra doesn’t have to take any particular form – you can say it out loud or in your head. You can ruminate on it during meditation or think it over while you brush your teeth. Some people use it to focus during exercise; others fall asleep repeating the phrase over and over.
If you’ve never thought of a mantra before, I’ve got you covered so that you can get started!
I am healthy and vibrant and strong.
I attract wealth and abundance.
I can have everything that I need to be happy.
I am strong and purposeful in this world.
My imperfections are part of my beautiful self.
I find that repeating a particular phrase can also help me when my mind is full of negative thoughts. I allows me to put them on mute and ‘calm the farm’ so to speak…
Do ‘your’ thing:
Too often we busy ourselves with the things we ‘need to get done’ and leave little time for the things that make us happy. Yes, there may be washing to do and the fridge smells like something died 3 months ago but those jobs aren’t going anywhere.
Perspective is key and sometimes our biggest strength is in letting things go once in a while in order to just enjoy life.
Making time to do ‘your’ thing isn’t as hard as it sounds, but it can take some commitment to make sure you follow through. A lot of people feel silly or guilty for holding it as a priority. Breaking down that barrier and just doing it is the first step to living your life the way you want to live it.
Maybe you love reading, hiking, cooking, print-making or Sudoku puzzles. Some people love learning more about a particular topic. Perhaps the thing that brings you the most happiness is competitive swimming or performing in front of a crowd.
I give you full permission to follow the thing that sparks a fire in your belly because the truth is, everyone deserves and needs to feel it.
Loving yourself isn’t always easy and some people find it more challenging than others. Like everything in life, you need to start somewhere to go anywhere. It takes an active step to make a change and you might just need to do something to tangibly say ‘I love you’ to yourself.