Is It Time To Let Go Of Your New Year Intentions?
Hands up who has completely moved on from those goals you set in January?
I’ve been thinking a lot recently about the expectations we set for ourselves and the way we develop goals to keep us on track.
I love the new year for the fresh start and positive air it brings. It’s the perfect chance to give any habits that have crept up on us the boot and have a general overhaul of negative vibes.
So, I love to use January as a time to set some fresh intentions and get clear on what I want out of life again. The thing is, by the time May/June comes around, I seem to have moved on to bigger and better things.
I used to get a bit annoyed at myself for losing sight and forgetting about the ‘promises’ I made at the start of the year. This year, however, I’ve developed a new approach when looking at things: I constantly change and that’s good.
With so much that has miraculously transpired in the first half of this year (we bought a house, I’ve started a freelance business and grown in other career roles too) I couldn’t and shouldn’t expect myself to be playing in the same field as January.
Life is constantly happening to us which allows us to learn and grow and we should be moving with it.
When I reflect on the intentions I set at the start of the year, I can see how they’ve been woven throughout the events and experiences of the last six months. Some I hope to bring with me into the second half and others have kind of ‘completed themselves’.
So here is what I’m taking with me and manifesting as I move toward December this year.
+ Make time for friendships
While my focus was on enjoying time with family in the first half of 2017, I’m turning my attention to the friendships I want to expand. I want to experience more wholesome, nourishing relationships that help me grow as a person. I want to talk and laugh and share with the people around me and so I’m investing more energy into my friends. That means more coffee dates, dinners, hangouts at home and walks together. The more time I spend with those who light me up, the more invigorated I am to experience life. I want more of that.
+ Read, read, read
If you’ve followed me for some time on TBL, you’ll know that I once studied literature at university. I love reading and can go through stages where I just devour book after book. More recently, I have let this drop off and I aim to remedy it with setting aside more time for it.
This time last year I was commuting almost two hours each day to work so I had a huge amount of time to get into books. I was picking up a new one nearly every week. I need to be a bit more deliberate nowadays in where I allocate my ‘reading time’.
My solution: we turn off the telly an hour before bed (which we should be doing anyway!). Beau and I realised we had got into a bit of a Netflix rut recently where we eat dinner, watch shows and get straight into bed. My mind was still wired and I felt like our nights were disappearing in a blink of an eye. Now we deliberately turn off the TV by 9:30 and I can spend the end of the night reading. I’m super into inspiring reads right now so I’ve picked up Daring Greatly and 10% Happier – I’ll let you know how I get on with them!
+ Hone in on that gut feeling
I’m getting better and better at knowing what I want (and what I don’t want). Having said that, I’m still a bit of a ‘yes-man’ and aim to please too many people. I want to keep practicing listening to my gut reaction to things, because that’s usually my biggest ally when it comes to knowing if something is right or wrong.
I’m more and more certain that my time is precious and I will only spend it doing things that light me up and serve me. I have a limited time on this earth and I don’t to want to waste it living up to other people’s expectations.
+ Act on what I’ve learnt
Over the last six months, I feel like I have absorbed so much new information in terms of health, wealth and happiness. I have been obsessed with reading, listening and learning more about living wholesomely and well. I know I’ve barely scratched the surface but I think it’s time I started actively implementing what I’m learning.
I particularly want to focus on my health and diet which is an area that I continue to put on the backburner because it seems too hard. I’m not struggling, I’m not unwell, but I know I could do better. I want to learn to nourish my body and enjoy it (right now I just hate the taste of most veggies) so I’ll be starting small. Breaking my sugar addiction is step one. Let’s see where I go from there!
+ Do it all with love
I’m sounding more and more corny bit the minute, but I have been consciously approaching everything and everyone around me with more openness and more love and it feels amazing. I can hear it when I talk, when I send a text, when I post a comment and when I share a photo. I feel it between myself and my family, myself and Beau and my cat Frankie. I can see it around my whole house which is feeling more and more like a home every day. And most importantly, I can feel it in myself. I have felt a great shift over the last 12 months in understanding who I am and in accepting who I am and that feels a lot like love to me.
I am deliberately approaching all things in life with more gentleness, more care and more love.
Now, I would love to know what you’re taking with you into the second half of the year!
Are you letting go of any old intentions which aren’t serving you now? Are you blazing through with January’s mission with a new sense of purpose? Share with me below where you’re focusing your energy for the rest of 2017 and I can help cheer you on!
With love (always),